Interview with Róisín O’Donovan, Intimacy Coordinator Under Mentorship With @intimacy_on_set, on Sex on Screen

Róisín is an actor & intimacy coordinator working across tv, film, theatre & education under the mentorship of Normal People’s Ita O’Brien. She holds a BA International in Drama, Theatre Studies & English from UCC, is a graduate of Bow Street’s Programme for Screen Acting where she now teaches Intimacy for screen to students of acting. Irish drama fans might recognise her as Niamh Reid from Red Rock. She believes deeply in the value of this work, loves her job and is a total nerd.


What is an intimacy co-ordinator? What do they do?

An intimacy coordinator works with stage and screen productions when there are scenes with intimacy, sexual or nude content. We bring a professional structure to these scenes and balance the safety and consent of actors with the vision of the writers and directors.

What are the benefits of hiring an intimacy co-ordinator?

We bring open communication & transparency, allowing directors voice their vision for the scene with clarity, and empowering actors to freely discuss their agreement & consent based on the directors suggestions, boundaries which are then respected when creating a choreography for the scene. This allows actors to feel safe and open in otherwise vulnerable situations, so they can relax into character and perform repeatable, detailed scenes of intimacy that are grounded in story. We also deal with admin like risk assessments, nudity riders and follow up reports.

What are some tips and tricks used to make sex scenes more comfortable for the actors?

Identifying the blocking & emotional life of the scene – lets actors really focus on the story and the character’s emotional journey
Agreement & consent of touch – clarifying and respecting each other’s boundaries
Closed Set – only essential crew to be present and monitors turned off
Safe words – the ability to stop the scene at any moment if it no longer feels appropriate.

What are some examples of sex scenes that you think are done really well?

Obviously Normal People, coordinated by my fantastic mentor Ita O’Brien, and the wonderful Sue Mythen. I also love the scenes in Netflix’s Hollywood, so beautifully crafted and you can really sense the actors are in control of those scenes, they feel safe and open to express the story within the choreography, coordinated by another master – Michael Arnold.

What are some ‘red flags’ when it comes to ‘bad’ sex scenes?

This is an interesting one, the audience can often sense when an intimate scene hasn’t been well enough considered. A lot of movies from the 80s and 90s had intimate scenes that didn’t serve the story, suddenly there would be a random sex scene that had no relevance to the story and the audience would cringe or go make a cup of tea. The beauty of a well done scene will have the audience leaning in.

Please tell us 3 differences between what we see on screen vs. what happens on set?

Actors are rarely fully naked on set, they wear modesty garments & their genitalia never ever touches.

Chemistry! While some actors naturally have a good rapport, for others it can be crafted, the length of the gaze, the quality of the kiss & built on like a dance.

Something that looks effortless on screen can be the most clumsy thing in the world on set. One actor standing on a box, leaning unnaturally to the side with their mouths open just so. But on screen, it looks a dream.

What advice would you give to someone thinking of becoming an intimacy coordinator?

Go for it! I would suggest studying acting, movement and/or directing. A knowledge of/ interest in film, human psychology & sexuality are helpful too. Watch movies, get an eye for what works & what doesn’t & why. There is no professional training in Ireland currently but Intimacy on Set does training in London (outside of Covid). Screen Skills Ireland & the Irish Theatre Institute sometimes do intro sessions. There are a few more training bodies, it takes time to get qualified & this is a very new industry so look for well established companies that offer on-going in-person training (not ideal in this climate, but in time we’ll be back in a room working together).

Any recommended reading/watching/following/listening re. intimacy directing?

Watch: Sex Education, if only we had this show growing up! I May Destroy You for its exploration of consent. Normal People for the emotional journeys. Bridgerton for the detail (great work from Lizzy Talbot on that one!)
Read: This stuff is so new no one has even written the book yet! Actor Movement by Vanessa Ewan is the next best thing. For anyone working in film, check out the Intimacy on Set Guidelines.
Listen: Film podcasts, understand how filmmakers make films A24, WTF, You Must Remember This etc.
Follow: @intimacy_on_set and @bectuintimacy.

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