Dear 13 year old Me,
I know you are lonely, insecure and sad right now. You hate school and feel like a massive loser, like there is something wrong with you because those girls who you thought were your friends have abandoned you. I want you to know that there is NOTHING wrong with you, and the pain you are feeling about this is extremely valid. Do not dismiss your experience as silly teenage girl drama, because no matter what age you are, losing friends and feeling lonely is absolutely shit. You will be happy to know that in time, you will learn to love yourself so much, that even when you are alone and have no one to sit with at lunch, you will love it and not feel a bit lonely because you are fantastic company!
You are funny, clever, kind and capable. Do not be afraid to speak up, because what you have to say matters, your ideas matter. What you have to say is funnnayy and ever so insightful. Embrace the weird my friend, it’s what makes you so funny and so wonderfully you. What is unique about us is our superpower. Because of your current status as a ‘loser with no friends’, you may be shocked to hear that when you are older you are a damn social butterfly who has a wonderful ability to make connections with people from all walks of life. Being authentically and unapologetically you will allow you to develop some incredibly meaningful and nourishing friendships with such a beautifully diverse range of people. Your friends are amazing people and you are so lucky and proud to know them.
I want you to believe in yourself – you have so much to give! If you have the courage to put yourself out there and do the work you can and will do amazing things. Do not be afraid to speak up and speak your mind. Despite what you might think, you bring smart, fresh and fair opinions to the table. Do not feel inferior because you are young – you are valid and worthy of being listened to! Don’t be afraid to ask for help either – this is a sign of strength. These are things you will have to continuously work on throughout your life, but, that’s okay too because we are about progress not perfection!
Hang in there girl, brighter days are ahead!